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Here’s Lookin’ at You

November 24, 2007

First, let me state at the top that I have not been able to find exact scriptural support for the view I’m going to suggest here.  Nevertheless, I believe that the point I will make grows out of a biblical understanding of the sexes. Â

There is a natural self-concern about our appearance.  This concern is not wrong or sinful by itself.  Of course, everyone can go to extremes, but being concerned about our appearance is godly.  Now, I believe that parents should teach their children how to dress right and also how to take care of themselves.  But I think that this general idea goes in different directions for boys and girls.  We should want to see pretty girls and handsome boys.  And this idea should mature in our teenagers and young ladies and men.  Ladies and girls should look beautiful. Gentlemen and boys should look handsome.

In the androgynization of our culture, we have developed a desire for both men and women to look sensual.  Today, girls and boys both are looking for “lookers,” and girls and boys are dressing to be “lookers.”  They want to be stylish rather than appropriately handsome or pretty.  Maybe I’m just making this up in my own mind, but do a little thought experiment for me:  think of the young men in your church’s youth group.  Do you picture them as handsome men or cool teenagers?  Think of the young ladies there.  Are they pretty and beautiful or flirtatious and sensually appealing?

Even how we teach our children and teens to groom themselves is complementary, and how we look should compliment our Christianity.

  1. JLS
    November 24, 2007 at 7:50 pm

    I think that you have a very good point.
    If we are to live our lives so as to give God glory, our clothing should represent this passion. Our clothing should not be such that would call attention to our fleshly appearance as much as it should help us represent Christ.
    Our clothing style should reflect our desire to approve things that are excellent (Php1:10). We should not seek to be normal, mediocre, or breath-takingly different. We are simply to seek to excel so that the glory of God would be seen as our primary passion.

  2. November 25, 2007 at 5:08 am

    You are absolutely on to something here. I hope we are striving to raise our own sons and daughters to bring honor to God in everything they do, including dress and hairstyle, too.

  3. HammerJacks Blacklisted Donkey
    November 25, 2007 at 7:38 pm

    I agree whole heartedly,but would like to add that God commands a distinction between men and women,our obediance to this command reflects our willingness to submit to God.

  4. November 27, 2007 at 10:39 am

    I completely agree. I don’t think that it should be taken to the extreme that people should set out to only were potato sacks or anything like that. But how you said that they can look appropriately hansom or appropriately pretty is right on key. Great article. Excellent balance.

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