Here’s Lookin’ at You
First, let me state at the top that I have not been able to find exact scriptural support for the view I’m going to suggest here.Â Nevertheless, I believe that the point I will make grows out of a biblical understanding of the sexes. Â
There is a natural self-concern about our appearance.Â This concern is not wrong or sinful by itself.Â Of course, everyone can go to extremes, but being concerned about our appearance is godly.Â Now, I believe that parents should teach their children how to dress right and also how to take care of themselves.Â But I think that this general idea goes in different directions for boys and girls.Â We should want to see pretty girls and handsome boys.Â And this idea should mature in our teenagers and young ladies and men.Â Ladies and girls should look beautiful. Gentlemen and boys should look handsome.
In the androgynization of our culture, we have developed a desire for both men and women to look sensual.Â Today, girls and boys both are looking for “lookers,” and girls and boys are dressing to be “lookers.”Â They want to be stylish rather than appropriately handsome or pretty.Â Maybe I’m just making this up in my own mind, but do a little thought experiment for me:Â think of the young men in your church’s youth group.Â Do you picture them as handsome men or cool teenagers?Â Think of the young ladies there.Â Are they pretty and beautiful or flirtatious and sensually appealing?
Even how we teach our children and teens to groom themselves is complementary, and how we look should compliment our Christianity.