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Personal Life – Family (Colossians 3:20-21)

July 11, 2010

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.  Colossians 3:20-21

Personal – Family

v     Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

  • The word for obey is hupakouo
    • Means to listen attentively
    • Not mind readers (kid outside, mom whispers in closet)
    • Not the normal problem
    • First act of obedience is hearing the command
    • “I didn’t hear you” is not a legitimate excuse
    • An obedient child is one that is eager to hear the instructions
    • Not hearing is the first act of disobedience
  • Obedience is not hard of hearing
    • Listens for the command and wants to hear it
    • Psalm 123:2
    • Deaf obedience is disobedience
  • Obedience is not forgetful
    • Command given Monday
    • Does not evaporate by Thursday
    • Lack of action by parents is not change in instructions or silent permission
    • Children should be told again if they need to, but the second reminder should come with discipline
    • Forgetful obedience is disobedience
  • Obedience is not piecemeal
    • Obey parents in all things
    • Saul and the Amalekites
    • Doing half the list is not obedience
    • Partial obedience is disobedience
  • Obedience is not postponed
    • Children cannot set their own schedule of when they will obey
    • Hebrews 3:7-8
    • Start cleaning the room, and begin to look at things and go on their own schedule of when the room will be clean
    • Delayed obedience is disobedience
  • Obedience is not subject to private interpretation
    • “I don’t have to do this because I’m older now”
    • This is called spin
    • Only Politicians and Justices can do this
    • Reinterpreted obedience is disobedience
  • Obedience is not reluctant or sullen
    • If obedience is well-pleasing to God, then it is to be well-pleasing to children and parents
    • Related to first point of eager obedience
    • Someone could obey right away (out of fear), but not like it
    • Grumpy obedience is disobedience
  • Obedience is rendered to parents – both of them
  • All things – children and parents should know that the children are being brought up to maturity – living on their own
  • Well pleasing – young people should strive to see their life as an integrated whole
    • “Heart is right” and bedroom is a pit – Gnostic mysticism
    • Room is spotless and heart full of uncleanness – Pharisaical hypocrisy
    • Reject both of these – clean your room with a clean heart

v     Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

  • Fathers
  • Some think of the Bible as a clunky, rule book
  • The aroma of obedience in the Bible is love, joy, and peace in the Holy Ghost
    • Some know the words, but not the tune (Mark Twain’s wife)  “My dear, you know all the words, but not the tune.”
    • Some Christians have rules, tests, standards, but no love, joy, or peace in the Holy Ghost
    • 3, 7, 10, or 12 steps to success; or paint by numbers solutions
    • Works righteousness
  • Scripture is not a mural, it is a window
  • Anger
  • Discouraged
  • Love sees with the highest degree of accuracy
    • Not critical
      • Accurate, but disproportionate
      • Bitterness
      • Caricature (line drawing)
      • Correction is not criticism
    • Not indulgent
      • No distinctions
      • Only constant is excuses
      • Water color
      • Smudging
      • Impressionistic
    • Love disciplines without harshness, calmly, for the sake of kid and shows mercy with wisdom
    • Love and Obedience – John 14:15, 23
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  1. Cathy McNabb
    July 11, 2010 at 9:07 pm

    “Obedience is not hard of hearing”

    HuH?? What??

  2. J. Paul Hornick
    July 12, 2010 at 5:29 am

    The word “obey” in English is rooted in the word “to hear.” The Greek word for “obey” is “hupakou-o” which means “to get under what is heard” – the root word is where we get our word “acoustic” which has to do with how one hears. The proof of hearing then is obedience. In Romans 5:19 the Bible says that by one man’s disobedience (parako-e: failure to hear, hearing incorrectly) sin entered the world.

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